Hurt people hurt people

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I wrote this post after a tough weekend being around some hurt people.  It’s been sitting awhile and is a little on the serious side, but I’m going to share it, anyway.  I hope you, dear reader, are not in a place of hurt or, if you are, you will realize that so much beauty is waiting on the other side of it.

“Hurt people hurt people.”  I think that phrase was from a Rick Warren Bible study I did.  I’ve really never been the same since hearing it.

Because it’s true.  I now see all the brokenness in this world, in people.  Even in people I love. Even in me.  Why are we all so broken?

I don’t have the answers.  But this I know.  I know that I don’t want to hurt other people.  So I am working on me.  Working on not being a person that passes on her junk to others.

On not assuming I know other people’s motives.

On not assimilating anything hurtful someone says.

On not judging other people who make choices I wouldn’t make.

On forgiving.

On loving.

That pretty much sounds like a lifelong project, doesn’t it?

The only person I can work on is me.  I can’t talk other people out of their hurt.  I’ve tried.  Really, what I’ve discovered is that not everybody wants to leave it.  I think because even though it hurts, it has become familiar, comfortable, less scary than the unknown of stepping outside of it.  Hurt can become a dwelling place. Leaving it behind requires courage.  And, oftentimes, humility.

I am so happy that I have Jesus, who is friends with the brokenhearted.  He says himself that it is the sick that need a doctor, not the healthy.  He was my healer when I was hurting oh so many years ago.  And now, as I walk with Him through this life, I know the truth of His words that “His yoke is easy and His burden is light.”  I’m so grateful that I have found the way. The Way.

My prayer is that all those who are hurting will find it.

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